During intercourse with my husband, I have been using my PC muscles to 'massage' him. Could this, in any way, actually be dangerous? He really enjoys this, but I want to make sure that I am not causing any sort of damage. Any advice on the situation is greatly appreciated. Thanks!

This is a great question for a few reasons: many women do not know about Kegel exercises (named after Dr. Arnold Kegel) and why and how they work and how they can even enhance your sexual pleasure. So, no… you cannot hurt him if you use Kegel exercises during intercourse. In fact, you and your husband will feel more intense pleasurable sensations as a result.

With that said, let’s lift the veil on Kegel exercises and explore some of the types of exercises couples can do and why it’s beneficial to do them to help enhance their sexual experience.

Proper Kegel exercises are done by squeezing your pubococcygeus (PC) muscles—these muscles go from your pubic bone to your tail bone (coccyx). The easiest way for both men and women to find them is when you are urinating. To work the PC muscles, try to stop the stream of urine again and again. Both men and women can do Kegel exercises, although it’s usually women that are encouraged to use and strengthen them to for these reasons:

* If you have had children, the muscles of the vagina will tighten providing your spouse with more friction during intercourse.

* Using Kegel exercises regularly will help keep away the possibility of incontinence as you age, so you don’t have to wear adult diapers.

* For many women, using the PC muscles during intercourse will help them to have more sexual satisfaction. Although it does not involve the clitoris, the contractions feel great!

* For men, using the PC muscles can help them to control their orgasm so that it doesn’t happen too fast. That will make them last longer and ultimately have stronger orgasms too!

Kegel exercises sometimes involve inserting small weights inside the vagina if the vaginal walls have stretched a lot. By using heavier weights over time, these muscles can become stronger and tighter giving you more control over the amount of pressure with which you can squeeze. Some women can do them while sitting or standing without weights. Don’t be surprised if you get a little turned on during the process!

With some women resorting to surgical procedures to tighten the vagina after having children, Kegel exercises offer a completely non-invasive way to cure incontinence, get better sexual sensations and help you to have better orgasms. Sounds like a win-win to us!

Related Articles
Kegel-size
How to do Kegel exercises [Video]
When to Have Sex After the Baby?

Dr. Joni Frater & Esther Lastique are the founders of www.LoveHerRight.com and the authors of "Love Her Right: The Married Man’s Guide to Lesbian Secrets for Great Sex!" Visit their college website www.SexEdBootcamp.com for more links and general sex ed information.